{"id":11357,"date":"2011-08-21T13:00:36","date_gmt":"2011-08-21T20:00:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/?p=11357"},"modified":"2011-08-21T09:52:21","modified_gmt":"2011-08-21T16:52:21","slug":"splendorquest-you-behave-in-certain-ways-and-you-lead-people-to-have-certain-expectations-of-you-if-youre-comfortable-with-those-expectations-and-if-you-want-to-make-everything-that-much-more-se","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/11357\/splendorquest-you-behave-in-certain-ways-and-you-lead-people-to-have-certain-expectations-of-you-if-youre-comfortable-with-those-expectations-and-if-you-want-to-make-everything-that-much-more-se\/","title":{"rendered":"SplendorQuest: “You behave in certain ways and you lead people to have certain expectations of you. If you’re comfortable with those expectations and if you want to make everything that much more secure you say the words out loud: This is what you are to me and this is what you will always have from me and I give you my solemn vow that I will never withhold from you anything that is yours to demand. That’s what we do at our very best. But what if you’re not comfortable with the expectations? What do you do then? Maybe you follow through anyway, but you never take that extra step, you never put it into words. You’re accountable for what you do as well as what you say, but if you don’t come right out and say it, you can always deny things, you can always claim you were misunderstood.”"},"content":{"rendered":"

This is an extract from a book I wrote in 1997 called The Unfallen<\/a>. This amounts to me letting people I make up speak for me, too, but it’s apposite to the larger conversation, and it’s good, I think. I like art about adults, and this is fun for me because we get to watch a teenage boy growing into his adulthood. I have never yet written a good book, and I don’t know that I ever will; the last chapter of childhood consists of coming to grips with your own mediocrity, after all. But The Unfallen<\/u> is concerned with nothing but my<\/u> world — my kind of people tackling my kind of issues. I hope this book is not the best I will ever do, but it’s the best I’ve done so far. And if you want to get drenched my way, it will do that job from the very first page. –GSS<\/em><\/p>\n

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Devin stood with Spencer as the car pulled away. He said, “Are you cold? Can you stand to walk?”<\/p>\n

“I’m all right.”<\/p>\n

“Let’s just walk, then. I learned how to think on the streets of Boston and Cambridge. I don’t always find the answer I’m looking for, but I can always walk my way to peace, to serenity.” They walked their way to the Harvard Bridge across the Charles — named the Harvard Bridge because the students of M.I.T. thought it was too badly designed to be called the M.I.T. Bridge. Elements of the more-or-less perpetual repair crew were out in their orange vests and traffic was backed up in both directions. The walkways were free, though, and they walked, one foot in front of the other, without speaking.<\/p>\n

Finally Devin said, “Are you a boy or a man, Spencer?”<\/p>\n

“I’m not sure I get that…”<\/p>\n

“It’s yours to say. People will treat you like a boy for the most part, I guess. But if you decide you’re a man, and if you decide to behave like a man, who can stop you?”<\/p>\n

Spencer grinned, his smile as bright as the sun. “There’s that, isn’t there?”<\/p>\n

“I ask because I think it’s a very brave Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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