{"id":11713,"date":"2010-04-04T14:28:45","date_gmt":"2010-04-04T21:28:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/?p=11713"},"modified":"2010-06-26T07:52:40","modified_gmt":"2010-06-26T14:52:40","slug":"splendorquest-loving-cathleen","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/11713\/splendorquest-loving-cathleen\/","title":{"rendered":"SplendorQuest: Loving Cathleen…"},"content":{"rendered":"

Cathleen and I have been on a love jag, lately, and I cannot begin to tell you how beneficial it’s been. A very simple idea: We added spending time alone together every day as a part of our goal-getting regimen. This turns out to have been an inspired idea, although I did not foresee that going in.<\/p>\n

At some point I may write about this experience in detail, because there is a lot to be learned from it. As an example, consider this: If you want to end the day married, start the day married. No relationship can endure if you’re not doing anything to maintain it.<\/p>\n

Teri and I have been talking about the same sorts of issues privately. Here’s a clip from email I wrote to her:<\/p>\n

My wife is most beautiful when she’s all the way in love with me. Her features are very fine in the ground state — striking, as an old family friend would have it. But when those features are lit from within by her passions, then she is many orders of magnitude more enthralling. But it’s my job to earn that response from her — and I wish I could insist that I’ve earned that response every day. But there is no better incentive to staying on the path to Splendor than to marry someone you have to live up to.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

We are a spiteful race. We wound all our treasures and treasure all our wounds. The SplendorQuest begins when you learn to think the other way — to focus on the world as you want it and not<\/u> as you don’t want it. I wrote the essay shown below six years ago, and I wish I could say I’ve always lived up to it — all the way, every day. But I’m living up to it now better than I ever have before, and I can’t think of any reason why I should not be able to get better at loving my wife every day from now on.<\/p>\n

What does this have to do with real estate? I hope you figure that out before a judge orders Read more<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Cathleen and I have been on a love jag, lately, and I cannot begin to tell you how beneficial it’s been. A very simple idea: We added spending time alone together every day as a part of our goal-getting regimen. 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