{"id":13298,"date":"2010-09-22T22:10:00","date_gmt":"2010-09-23T05:10:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/?p=13298"},"modified":"2010-09-23T14:55:26","modified_gmt":"2010-09-23T21:55:26","slug":"failing-up-the-big-secret-to-the-secret-to-success-is-this-the-secret-is-completely-obvious-to-everyone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/13298\/failing-up-the-big-secret-to-the-secret-to-success-is-this-the-secret-is-completely-obvious-to-everyone\/","title":{"rendered":"Failing up: The big secret to “the secret to success” is this: The “secret” is completely obvious to everyone."},"content":{"rendered":"

I got a speeding ticket today. Oops.<\/p>\n

The other week, I had what could have been a nice real estate transaction fall apart because I skipped a fundamental step, thinking it unnecessary, only to trip on it later.<\/p>\n

Worst of all, a new software project I’ve been working on is failing, taking the SplendorQuest server down with it — as you may have noticed. I’m having to take it apart now — which just by itself has been a major undertaking.<\/p>\n

O! Woe is me!<\/p>\n

Not. I got a speeding ticket, which took about five minutes out of an otherwise hugely productive day. I worked in the car on my iPhone while the cop pressed hard to make carbon sets with a ball-point pen.<\/p>\n

I blew a great deal, but every time I do something like that, I learn from my mistake and do better from then on.<\/p>\n

And even as my one mad-scientist project burns down the lab, I had another one go live this week with, so far, very impressive results.<\/p>\n

What’s my point?<\/p>\n

First, if you’re doing something you’ve never done before, there’s a good chance you’ll fail — which is completely obvious to everyone.<\/p>\n

Second, the only possible way to succeed at anything is to press on regardless, even at the risk of repeated failures — which is also obvious.<\/p>\n

And third, “the secret to success” consists of focusing on the second proposition and not the first — which, yet again, is news to no one.<\/p>\n

I can be thick, I know it, but I’m actually having to think about this stuff. My whole life, I’ve done huge things, big, big tasks, and I’ve never thought much about the motivations driving my work. I want my work done<\/em> — that’s what drives me.<\/p>\n

Until just lately, I had never thought about the way I work in the context of the formal idea of “goal-setting.” I’ve heard and read enough on the topic to know what people are talking about, I think, but I never made any connection to my own life.<\/p>\n

For one thing, the goals were so abstract they seemed meaningless to me. Who doesn’t want to go to Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I got a speeding ticket today. Oops. The other week, I had what could have been a nice real estate transaction fall apart because I skipped a fundamental step, thinking it unnecessary, only to trip on it later. 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