{"id":13765,"date":"2010-12-16T12:53:11","date_gmt":"2010-12-16T19:53:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/?p=13765"},"modified":"2010-12-17T11:05:02","modified_gmt":"2010-12-17T18:05:02","slug":"why-dont-most-new-or-struggling-real-estate-agents-dont-want-to-be-mentored","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/13765\/why-dont-most-new-or-struggling-real-estate-agents-dont-want-to-be-mentored\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Don’t Most New Or Struggling Real Estate Agents Want To Be Mentored?"},"content":{"rendered":"

From time to time many of the contributors here have written about the concept of mentoring from one viewpoint or another. You may be a mentor, or have been well mentored, or both. Maybe neither. In fact, probably neither. My experience has been somewhat anomalous in that I was blessed, early on, with an abundance of first-rate, exceptionally successful mentors, who literally didn’t give a damn about my feelings. Tough? One of ’em was a Marine, a survivor of the Battle of Guadalcanal. When he talked, you listened, then said, “Yes sir, thank you sir, may I please have another?” The guy was funny, but brutal<\/strong>. And boy, was he ‘colorful’. Many years later, after Jim had passed away, Dad told me that Jim bet him he could make me cry. <\/p>\n

This year has been an eyeopener for me as it relates to mentoring.<\/strong> You’d think agents, especially the younger ones, would be eager to learn which way’s north on the map from someone who’s been there, done that, been knocked down, yet survived to thrive. As each year as gone by, fewer and fewer agents last longer than a week or so under a bona fide mentor. Most say they want to learn, but when push comes to shove, talk must be converted to walk, and they trip on their own BS. In the last month or so I’ve asked several experienced agents who, as policy, give of their time to mentor, if they’ve seen the same trend. Yes — it was unanimous.<\/p>\n

Every single one of my mentors, and there were many, extracted a sacred promise<\/em> from me to pay it forward. I’ll not live to be old enough to get free and clear of that obligation, though I try. <\/p>\n

In the last decade or so, I’ve had several agents ask me to mentor them, as in, “Will you please mentor me?” Three of ’em walked their talk to the end.<\/strong> All three currently thrive. Just a guess, but in the last three years or so, there’ve been at least 15-20 come to me, initiating contact, wanting to be mentored. Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

From time to time many of the contributors here have written about the concept of mentoring from one viewpoint or another. You may be a mentor, or have been well mentored, or both. Maybe neither. In fact, probably neither. My experience has been somewhat anomalous in that I was blessed, early on, with an abundance […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":8,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_crdt_document":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[62,212,5],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-13765","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"hentry","6":"category-dirty-laundry","7":"category-flourishing","8":"category-real-estate","10":"no-featured-image"},"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":11484,"url":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/11484\/you-dont-need-todays-idea-of-a-team-to-succeed-in-a-big-way\/","url_meta":{"origin":13765,"position":0},"title":"You Don’t Need Today’s Idea of a Team To Succeed In a Big Way","author":"Jeff Brown","date":"March 10, 2010","format":false,"excerpt":"Teams have proven themselves a potentially profitable strategy in real estate brokerage, as almost every mid-large company has at least one pretty successful team under its roof. I've never had buyer agents or specialized listing agents on my team. I use the same philosophy Dad and his buds. Though they\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Flourishing"","block_context":{"text":"Flourishing","link":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/category\/flourishing\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":9538,"url":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/9538\/pardon-me-sir-but-have-you-seen-the-special-on-grey-poupon-at-wal-mart\/","url_meta":{"origin":13765,"position":1},"title":"“Pardon me sir, but have you seen the special on Grey Poupon at Wal Mart?”","author":"John Rowles","date":"August 17, 2009","format":false,"excerpt":"UPDATE: Buy the T-Shirt at Cafe Press! Yep, that's a Rolls Royce Phantom (2008 MSRP $340,000) in the parking lot of the Newport RI Wal Mart captured with my phone on Saturday. The headline is my best shot at a caption (YouTube has the old Grey Poupon commercial). What's yours?","rel":"","context":"In "Real Estate"","block_context":{"text":"Real Estate","link":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/category\/real-estate\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"rolls_royce_phantom_wal_mar","src":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/rolls_royce_phantom_wal_mar.jpg?resize=350%2C200","width":350,"height":200},"classes":[]},{"id":3217,"url":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/3217\/every-day-is-a-good-day-to-invest-in-phoenix-real-estate\/","url_meta":{"origin":13765,"position":2},"title":"Every Day Is A Good Day To Invest In Phoenix Real Estate","author":"Brian Brady","date":"June 7, 2008","format":false,"excerpt":"Every day is a great day to buy a single family home, even in Phoenix. That ought to rile up the analytical types here. Of course, that same principle applies to the stock market, as well. I started my career as a \"Financial Consultant\" but was mentored by some fellas\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Investment"","block_context":{"text":"Investment","link":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/category\/investment\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":3165,"url":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/3165\/to-sir-with-love-a-rundown-of-the-links-in-the-unchained-chain\/","url_meta":{"origin":13765,"position":3},"title":"To Sir, with love: A rundown of the links in the Unchained chain","author":"Greg Swann","date":"May 23, 2008","format":false,"excerpt":"Brian already cited some of the constructive criticism we have received about BloodhoundBlog Unchained, and that's as it should be. I think we did a nice job, for a first swing at the ball, but the whole BloodhoundBlog idea is about doing better. Praise might be sweet to the ears,\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Blogging"","block_context":{"text":"Blogging","link":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/category\/blogging\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.paypal.com\/en_US\/i\/scr\/pixel.gif?resize=350%2C200&ssl=1","width":350,"height":200},"classes":[]},{"id":9489,"url":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/9489\/makin-impressions-being-a-pro-oh-and-lookin-the-part\/","url_meta":{"origin":13765,"position":4},"title":"Makin’ Impressions — Being a Pro — Oh, and Lookin’ the Part","author":"Jeff Brown","date":"August 11, 2009","format":false,"excerpt":"I've learned to expect a lackadaisical attitude about what makes a pro in the real estate business. What's been surprising is the way something as basic as physical appearance has seemed to be unrelated to any particular generation. I'm talkin' about how agents choose to dress while on the job.\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Real Estate"","block_context":{"text":"Real Estate","link":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/category\/real-estate\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":7200,"url":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/7200\/biz-model-schmiz-model-its-about-quality-the-rest-is-happy-noise\/","url_meta":{"origin":13765,"position":5},"title":"Biz Model Schmiz Model — It’s About Quality — The Rest Is Happy Noise","author":"Jeff Brown","date":"March 4, 2009","format":false,"excerpt":"NASA hasn't invented the device sensitive enough to measure the apathy I harbor for what business model other real estate firms use. In fact, taking it a step farther, I'd probably have to climb up several rungs on the 'I care' ladder to reach apathy on that subject. Fair enough?\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Realty Reality"","block_context":{"text":"Realty Reality","link":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/category\/realty-reality\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13765","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/8"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13765"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13765\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":13816,"href":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13765\/revisions\/13816"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13765"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13765"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13765"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}