{"id":14427,"date":"2011-04-14T09:17:02","date_gmt":"2011-04-14T16:17:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/?p=14427"},"modified":"2011-04-17T08:52:58","modified_gmt":"2011-04-17T15:52:58","slug":"14427","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bloodhoundrealty.com\/BloodhoundBlog\/14427\/14427\/","title":{"rendered":"Approbation Junkies"},"content":{"rendered":"

I wonder, with regard to an addiction to things, if there isn\u2019t a deeper cause\u2026 maybe a hole that needs filling. I ascribe most of our eventual attacks on ego to a lack of continuity we create within ourselves, and our inability to either align our external actions or accept our internal truth.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Sean Purcell commented here, not long ago. \u00a0Good stuff. \u00a0I wanted to bring it to the forefront.<\/p>\n

Here’s the thing: needing approbation from others has made me weaker than anything else. \u00a0It’s made me a pawn of a\u00a0dilettante, a hustler for a buck and it’s made me do all of the smarmy, seedy things I’ve ever done. \u00a0 The root cause has been making someone like me.<\/p>\n

Think of this: when you’ve gone to a store with a big ticket item, and you get an ingratiating, smarmy salesperson there. \u00a0His goal in life is to make you like him. \u00a0Is there anything more repulsive? \u00a0 You see a car salesperson that wants you to seem like a friend. \u00a0Is anyone fooled by the\u00a0saccharine\u00a0compliments? \u00a0Anyone?<\/p>\n

And if they convince<\/em> you that you need to approve of them, you leave with a bad taste in your mouth, not unlike bile. \u00a0I’ve been that guy, on both sides of the counter. \u00a0I know.<\/p>\n

It’s like going into a gentleman’s club, as if some dude in his late 40’s is gentrified by\u00a0ogling\u00a0daddy issue girls in their early 20’s.<\/p>\n

Approbation is carbon monoxide. \u00a0Seeking it in lieu of achievement means a death of a million cuts.<\/p>\n

The Oatmeal has it right.<\/a><\/p>\n

Jesus, also, has it right:<\/p>\n

“So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by men. I tell you the truth, they have received their reward in full. \u00a0(Matthew 6:2)<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

And what a reward. \u00a0Seriously. \u00a0What a reward to have dirtbags approve of you.<\/p>\n

We clamor for it…the approval of strangers….(or in the case of Real Estate conferences, strangers that cheat on their wives.) \u00a0A standing ovation devoid of meaning? \u00a0We haven’t achieved jack, but we want the adulation anyway. \u00a0We do so much pandering.<\/p>\n

To Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I wonder, with regard to an addiction to things, if there isn\u2019t a deeper cause\u2026 maybe a hole that needs filling. I ascribe most of our eventual attacks on ego to a lack of continuity we create within ourselves, and our inability to either align our external actions or accept our internal truth. 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